Five finds of the fortnight: Edition 22
Remembering Robert Gonzales (1949-2021)
Robert Gonzales, NVC trainer who taught about the Living Energy of Needs and the spirituality of NVC, passed away in Mexico on November 19.
If you’re not familiar with his work, here is a series of videos that are offered free on Youtube—they are a great starting point to understand Robert’s teachings on Living Compassion.
I was fortunate enough to attend the only retreat Robert led in India (in Auroville, 2014), and to be on the trainer team with him at the Kochi IIT, January 2020. I’m grateful to his work for introducing me to the living energy of needs—going beyond labeling or identifying my needs to actually experiencing them—and for helping me understand what living compassion looks like.
Here’s a picture of the IIT trainer team from Jan 2020:
An appeal for support
Robert’s family and friends are raising money to cover the costs of his treatment and care towards the end of his life. You can read more about it here.
1. Quote of the week
Self-compassion begins with the recognition that fear or anger is an aliveness that is our life energy. Life-reaching-for-life is the very nature of fear and anger…so rather than trying to get over it, or trying to get through it, self-compassion opens to it.
~ Robert Gonzales
2. Image of the week
3. Article of the week
Recently, someone shared the link to a 2016 commencement speech by Vivek Murthy, the Surgeon General of the United States. I particularly enjoyed how he addressed the topics of empathy, connection and listening:
“I’m talking about the connection you build with people who are entirely different from you because you are able to look past labels and see them for who they really are.
I’m talking about the kind of connection that inspires you to feel kinship to people around the country and around the world because you recognize that, deep down inside, we all have the same fundamental hopes and dreams and we are better off when we are helping each other.”
“Empathy is choosing to see ourselves in another despite our differences.
It’s recognizing that the same humanity—the same desire for meaning, fulfillment and security—exists in each of us, even if it’s expressed uniquely.
Empathy is what creates our desire to build connection and to solve or even prevent conflicts from family disagreements to global crises.”
4. Video of the week
From a series of videos I shot with Liv Larsson, a couple of years ago: on understanding shame and reclaiming our power.
5. Fundraiser event: Mediate your Life with John Kinyon
John Kinyon is offering a 3.5-hour session “Mediate your Life with the Magic of the 3 Chairs”, which will help you gain more ease and confidence when you find yourself in the intensity of conflict.
In this 3.5 hour session, you will learn conversation maps (both inner and outer) that will help you to:
build resilience with adversity
strengthen your relationships
open new creative possibilities.
This event is by donation and is a fundraiser for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, meaning that you can sign up for free and choose to give a donation in an amount of your choice to support our work.